marry him or not .. life question

hii ... m kavita ,.22 years girl and jolly in nature , i have a bf , he is 4 years elder then me and we were in relationship since 3 years . after one year he found me fat and told me to reduce weight else his mom would not gonna accept me. ok i started working on that . he don't like my acting as he don't want to perform me in serials and all and i am born as filmy character , i left with all this as well. sometimes he spoke so nice and sometimes rude , he didint talk to me on phone while he is at home , i have discussed about him in my family but yet he is not intrested as he say "let wait for the right time". m confused because from very few months , he is fightining with me on irritating issues and one more thing we are not at all compatible , he like society and i didnt think about craps when i have to do something.we are very different , now a days he's giving value to me . and m not getting that should i marry him or not .. suggest me and don't post my message pubilcally